I think it was 2007/8 at my friend's wedding...her husband was his best friend.
I loved helping people even if sometimes to my own discomfort. After the wedding, introductions were made and that was it.
I am this type of person that does not like trouble, I will always have a plan cooking but people might call me Mugu or ƠŁƠdo or something else... but I always have my plan.. intact people have called me that. I let things go easily, I am a simple person and no serenre at all....
2010 after graduating from Uni, served and was looking for job o, my friend had a baby, no one was there to help so I stepped in since I was free, saw her and decided to stay with them. ( me I needed break from home Sef due to all the pressure of not having a job and no money)
I just assumed it was their house didn't ask, after that day she said, "its not our house o, it's my husbands best friends house" I was like hmm ok no wahala.. as long as he doesn't mind...
1 month into childcare, we started talking about things.. he wools come back from work and we would all gist. From there he started talking about marriage and I voiced my opinion not knowing that he had made up his mind from the beginning.
Initially when he asked me out, I was mad. You people know how I like money . I said na wa o!! But it all disappeared when we started talking deeply. And i cut out all the romantic dates and all. We talked all the time. Cos we were a thing then. He started talking marriage sharp sharp and I was just surprised. I just believed it was my time since everything else wasn't working out for me. I settled!!! Didn't fight it or question it. I just settled !!! I shouldn't have when I think of it now!!
After 3 months of talking and hanging out, my friend for transferred to Calabar and they moved but before then he had proposed. He was so excited I said yes but wanted to rush everything. I said no and told him to wait so we could know each other better. Will never forget his statement " if we are meant to be together why prolong it"
I told my pastor and my friends in church and everyone was confused, but after the whole story they prayed with me and we started counselling. So after like 7 months we got married.
My family didn't have a problem with the whole thing since they knew me, but his family was a little bit hesitant. but later mellowed.
We moved into the family house started our lives and now here I am telling the story of how it didn't work out.
Never thought I would be here saying this but there is a reason for everything.
The story is long but please feel free to ask me anything at all....