A Twitter user that goes by the handle Mr Boro narrates a story that’s got people rolling in their different reactions.
Dear Nigerian parents, your children shouldn’t be your retirement plan. Yours sincerely.
Ok, I think I should do a thread to explain my position better for those who genuinely seek to understand.
I’ll tell the short story of my first cousin and how that changed my mindset on parenting and expectations.
He was the first born, his parents weren’t educated but his father used to say his son will read all the book he couldn’t read.
True to his words, he gave everything to my cousin, he was a farmer, he didn’t send my cousins siblings to school bcos “when their brother hammer e go take care of them”
He sold some of his lands to ensure my cousin was a graduate.
So he graduated from LAUTECH in 2009 and while he was in Uni my dad got him a part time job in WAPCO.
ALL his salary went to his siblings, now this is the norm as that was what his father wanted, but he couldn’t do anything for himself and he was evidently stagnant.
He wasn’t fazed though, after all when he helps his next sibling, that one will get some weight off his shoulders, but what type of job will accelerate such comfort for an uneducated sibling?
So while he was in service he was still sending money to them, he was sound so he was taking about 20 students and making money.
Time to marry, there was a problem, wifey wanted them to live in Lagos, cousin can’t afford, he has load on his neck.
He needed to double his hustle, whatever stress his parents thought education will lift off his shoulders, their reliance on him is making their plans ineffective.
He was not going to be ungrateful though, he kept pushing.
Marriage was eventually cancelled, bride’s wife doubted that he was financially capable enough to marry. He was in his late twenties, my mum told him “you are a man, you still have time.”
After service in 2010, there was no job for a while as my dad had left WAPCO. He switched off his phone for a long time and moved to our house bcos the expectations were too much and he couldn’t keep up.
The sight of his first tweet has been very controversial on social media.
**I’sn’t the saying, "God that gives children will definitely provide what to take care of the children with"true again?