I had been with my boyfriend for about 5 months at this point, and his sex drive was still as active as it had been when we first got together. I don’t mean he had a normal, healthy, sex drive. No. He wanted sex all day, every day: when we first woke up, before going to work, as soon as we got back from work, right before dinner, right after dinner, an hour after that, right before bed. Sometimes he would wake me up in the middle of the night to have sex.
Needless to say, I just couldn’t keep up. While his sex drive remained the same, mine was dwindling. However, I did want to at least try to compromise with him, and we decided to buy herbal libido pills to help raise my sex drive.
I took the pills for about 2 weeks with no improvement. My sex drive remained the same. I decided to stop taking the pills since I didn’t believe they were working. He was not happy about it.
One morning, my boyfriend decided to make me coffee. I was in the next room and heard, what sounded like, a pill being dropped into an empty mug. Immediately I thought of the herbal pills. When he brought me the coffee, I asked him what he had put in it, hoping he would admit what he did. He told me sugar and cream, but mentioned nothing about the pill.
I looked into the mug and saw an oily residue accumulating at the top of the coffee. I asked him what it was, and he said he had no idea. I looked into his mug, noticed there wasn’t an oily substance in his, and confronted him about it. I told him I heard the pill drop into the mug and that I was absolutely disgusted with him. He finally admitted it, but didn’t think it was a big deal. I’m sorry, but putting a substance into my coffee that I didn’t want to take, just to satisfy his own desires, is so disgusting.
I am being pushed to end this relationship because I can’t keep up to the sex, but we’ve been together for years. Ending it will not be funny.
What the hell can i do?