So i stumbled on this post by a friend of mine who happens to be a retired playboy and it really got me wondering.
What’s your take on receiving gifts from a lover guys?
You know, before I married my wife. I found it difficult and uncomfortable to accept any gift/present from her having gone through hell in the hands of someone I dated in the past. Yes, a gift/present is a burden to men and for women a gift/present is simply a nice thing to receive and they enjoy it.
But men are not out of line in seeing gifts as obligations. For SOME women, any gift they give to you is like an investment to them. Some women’s gift/present is full of meaning and duty. I was given a very expensive gift on st. Valentine’s day in 2008 by my then girlfriend, and when we separated some thirteen months later she demanded that I return her gift. She didn’t really need it, she just wanted to frustrate me because it was a monetary gift. And since my resources faced several alternatives, an issue of priority arose.
My friends didn’t want me to return it because it’s legally mine since it’s a gift, even my female friends agreed and were furious with rage. But for me, the legal thing to do is not always the right thing. Legally I can keep the gift because once given, the giver gives up the rights with it, but it’s not worth all the stress that follows. That’s how I gave it back. I have also seen grown men demanding a gift they once gave out.
While it is wrong for a woman to see her gifts/presents as an investment, it’s also wrong for men to receive gifts from or spend the resources of a woman they know they will not stick with. Love is not always free. I have heard so many stories about women who lose their whole life savings on men. It’s not good to take a woman’s money and take her for a ride…vice versa. But for a man, it’s simply evil.