Some people don’t want to have children early in marriage for many reasons. Some of these reasons could be not being financially stable, prioritizing career or academics, wanting to give their spouse maximum attention, or just wanting to be totally free and independent (not having any worries about the child).
For eg, when you don’t have a child, you can stay out late with your spouse anyhow, travel at will, eat whatever you want to eat (pregnancy won’t allow you do this), sleep whenever you want to and as long as you wish, go out anytime and come back anytime without worrying about your children, etc.
Some couples decide to use contraceptives or other family planning methods for 1,2,3 or even 4 years after their wedding.
Is it selfishness not to want to have children early in marriage because you want to “flex” and enjoy life with your spouse?
Is it selfishness not to want to have children early in marriage because you are not ready to give up your freedom?