So yesterday, popular Nigerian music video director, filmmaker, and television director Kemi Adetiba made a post on Instagram where she shared a video of actress Tracee Ellis Ross’ speech at the Glamour Women of the Year awards saying that alot of people have walked up to her to tell her how much marriage and kids would be of added advantage to her life and achievements, but to her, it has nothing to add or take away from her personal achievements.
Kemi Adetiba who would clock 38 in less than 3months agreed to same school of thought with the caption she shared. Read below:
Before the “miss the point” folks start running rogue in my comment section, Tracee Ellis Ross has never once said she never wants to be married or have children. What she is saying however, is that because she currently has neither, some people choose to invalidate all of her personal achievements and growth. Their line of reasoning is her life is yet to have TRUE meaning until a husband and child punctuate her entire existence.
This struck a chord as I get this all the time. I will be 38 in just over a month and a half, and while I would LOVE to be married (to my God-chosen companion, and best friend) and have child(ren), I am very comfortable with the knowledge that my life is just as valid, and beautiful, and happy, and successful, if for some reason that never comes to pass. Marriage and kids is not my “crowning glory”… It’s another BEAUTIFUL step in life I would love to take. I’d also love to make (and keep) a billion dollars in my lifetime, but I won’t be any less of a woman or Kemi Adetiba if that didn’t come to pass either.
No… I’m not comparing the two. I’m just highlighting it doesn’t diminish a (Wo)man’s -Kemi Adetiba’s - worth if it never happens.
Watch the 1 min video Below:
What are your thoughts on this?