I agree. I’m an introvert and I love having some time alone but I’m also trying to come out of my comfort zone. It’s not always about me. It’s hard but we have to make sacrifices for those we love. It’s okay to withdraw once in a while but it should be for a limited time and there should be effective communication not leaving the person hanging or confused.
I’ve also withdrawn from people whom I love. Once when I was recovering from a recent heartbreak and struggling with suicidal depression, I became withdrawn and reserved. My mum had to go and tell my pastor and his wife to talk to me. I later understood that she must have felt really bad that I shut her out. I could sense her frustration.
I can imagine how frustrating it is for someone you love to shut you out. In times of grief and sorrow, I believe that’s a good time to draw closer and comfort one another. Even if you can’t explain what you are going through, just let them feel your presence. Take a stroll in silence, watch a movie together in silence or just sit and hold hands for a while.
Finally, we don’t express our grief in the same way so if you feel withdrawing totally and shutting out those you love is best for you, well, I can’t change that.