On Sexual Compatibility


this does not follow my brother!!! and i don’t think there is something called “perpetual” fornicator or adulterer.


I just realized I’ve been calling extra marital sex what pre marital sex is.

Extra is wrong oo but pre is ok sha.


Oh yeah… I mix them up too sometimes…


For those asking for the Bible verse that says premarital sex is a sin;

"Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder.
1 Corinthians 7:1‭-‬3 MSG

It is good to have sex but only within the context of marriage. Marriage is strong enough to provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life


God initiated sex and He knows that it is important. God knows which two people will be compatible sexually and in all other areas of life, that’s why it’s important to seek Him for a spouse.


Seeking God for a spouse doesn’t automatically mean that you two will be able to satisfy each other immediately. That’s why you need to communicate with each other, tell each other how you want it, be open to learn and above all pray. Yes! Pray about you and your spouse sexuality. God created sex so He has all it takes to give you and your spouse a fulfilling sexual life.

You must not achieve sexual satisfaction on your wedding night. Avoid pre marital sex and when you get married, you and your spouse can start learning and exploring each other’s bodies together


This is oddly reassuring. Thanks.


Run away from sexual immorality [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body.

This is another verse that clarifies that premarital sex is a sin. This verse also indirectly states that masturbation and watching porn is a form of sexual sin.

No matter how we try to justify premarital sex, it is a sin. It is not greater than telling lies but it is a sin. Obey God first by abstaining from it, and trust God to help you achieve a fulfilling sexual life when you get married. If you are single, you can start now to pray and tell God what you want. It’s better to pray about it than to act on your sexual desires outside marriage


Premarital sex doesn’t guarantee sexual compatibility. A man can sexually satisfy you but after marriage, he begins to have erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. Will you divorce him because of that? No. You will have to see how you two can work it out and help each other


David committed adultery but was still called a man after God’s heart because he repented. He was humble. He didnt blame Bathsheba for bathing where she would be seen. He acknowledged he had sinned and was repentant. He also had to suffer some consequences for his sin.

So let’s not use David as a license to commit sin. The grace of God is there but it is not a licence to sin. All have sinned but not all are living in sin. We have all sinned in the past but that is not a licence to continue sinning. You might not be lucky to have a second chance to repent


But a man can also have erectile dysfunction even when he’s been celibate all his life.


Really? Enlighten me.


erectile dysfunction is not unique to sexually active people alone. Just saying. Some men just don’t know how to “get it up” for lack of a better way to put it.


Uhnnn. Thanks. I actually thought it happens only with men that can’t keep their weapons in check though


Common causes include:

  • Heart disease.
  • Clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis)
  • High cholesterol.
  • High blood pressure.
  • Diabetes.
  • Obesity.
  • Metabolic syndrome — a condition involving increased blood pressure, high insulin levels, body fat around the waist and high cholesterol.
  • Parkinson’s disease.



Thanks alot for this…


True. But her point is:

“If you marry him because he was Great in Bed before marriage 100%, what will happen to your marriage if something comes up midway?
Hence, having a good pre-marital sex life is not a TOTAL GUARANTEE for a good marital sex life”


Trust me… Its never a total guarantee… if not there would not be a high rate of divorce cases till now…


thank you for this…


THank you again for this…