Thank you so much for offering to counsel, by the way i'm not married any more..
I really loved the begiining where you said that it doesnt matter,it really doesnt for most people but i believe for some people it does and for some it doesn't.
i have seen someone who did not like the fact that he married a virgin because he was not ready to teach
I have seen someone who was a sexually active person when young but drifted out of it when he got older, he was not willing to learn because his orientation changed when he got married. his wife suffered it.
i have seen both partners sexually active but didn't like each other's fantasies and their sex life suffered.
For me it didn't matter, I was just there to please him totally, i mean whatever he wanted..he wasn't interested in what i liked or wanted to learn cos he was not ready to teach and that did not enocuorage me to have any desire whatsoever, i tried but nothing...hahahah!
counselling is very good but before counselling, the partners have to agree first and before that they have to know each others' bodies and desires...i agree with you 200% on honesty...it goes a long way...
when you are into each other genuinely with no judgements sex will work out...believe me...