I’ve dated a guy for seven years but we always have a fight concerning the same issue.
He is never satisfied with me. Whenever I see some SMS or picture from another chick on his device, he is good at saying sorry and I forgive but he keeps making the same mistake. What should I do?
I don’t think it’s a mistake if he has been doing the same thing for that long. Pardoning a partner is great when they make honest mistakes and apologise sincerely for them, not when they repeatedly do things that are obviously hurtful on the belief that there is a ready arm willing to take them back.
Not only is it unfair on you, it is also a way of misrepresenting yourself. I don’t think it’s cool to be the woman who is seen as spineless and who is indeed spineless to the point of being unable to speak for yourself and kick out a man who is intentionally not getting his act right. There is a place for being forgiving and nice and all that but there is also a point where this crosses to being unreasonable.
I think that by continuously allowing your boyfriend coast despite this obviously unfair, irresponsible behavior, you are not doing your relationship right and you are also not doing yourself any favour. This is not to say you should break up with him instantly, I’m just saying sit him down, express how bad it makes you feel that he’s treating you disrespectfully, do whatever you can to make him listen and act right. But whatever you do, don’t just sit there while he continuously embarrasses you by blatantly going after other women as if you do not exist…
I’ll stop here for now… perhaps someone in the house would like to add one or two finishing touches…