A lot of Nigerian men are boldly standing on this table, it might end up breaking if they could actually read this.
In my country, Nigeria, most Mothers have taken up the Daddy’s duty in their homes, while their husband just maintains the position of the Father; nothing more.
A lot of women are actually the ones winning the bread in the family, without the husband being of help, even when he has the financial ability to do so. Some men(Fathers) actually feel relaxed because they married a good wife who hustles day and night, just to make sure her children won’t suffer. Some men now feel relaxed being jobless, while their wife, who was married to be a helpmeeet, does all the fatherly duties, just to make sure her Children get quality education.
It’s sad because a lot of women are actually suffering and smiling. No, they won’t ask for a divorce because they feel it may affect their children. So, they try their best to keep up with their husband’s attitude.
When the child makes it in life(becomes successful), they take the glory and pose as the Father with the “that’s my boy/girl attitude”, when they contributed little or nothing to that child’s upbringing. Sad, but true.
You think good women/wives don’t exist? Come to my country. Social media majorly points out the bad wives, neglecting the good ones. Hey, there are women who do not insult their husbands irrespective of the fact that the men ain’t even making efforts to win buns in the family, not to talk of winning bread. So sad.
When would our Fathers be tired of taking advantage of the good and supportive women they married? When will men learn to take responsibility for their actions(procreation)… When?
To the men who try their best with or without the help of their wife to perform not just their fatherly duty of procreation, but also their daddyly(if there’s any word like that) duty of providing for their families, may God bless you.
I pray that the guys who are yet to get married know that there’s more to fatherhood than procreation.