Is dating the same as being married?
No. It isn’t. You have more freedom in a dating relationship than in a marriage relationship. By this, I mean freedom of choice. Courtship is not an institution. If you realise that a dating relationship isn’t on course, you have the right to end it.
That’s why I always tell single people that Courtship is the time to love intelligently, marriage is the time to love blindly. If you love intelligently in courtship, then you can love blindly in marriage. I have a full post of that on my blog, lajuiren.com. The link is here. http://www.lajuiren.com/2017/06/22/loving-intelligently/. I think you should read it as soon as we’re done.
However, one thing is sure, marriage doesn’t change people, it magnifies who they really are. So, you must know what you’re getting into. If he is beating you now, he will most likely get worse in marriage. If she is money conscious now, she will most likely get worse in marriage.
This also applies to you. You don’t wait until you’re married to start exhibiting the characteristics needed for a fruitful home. The same fruit of the spirit such as love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness etc that a Christian should exhibit are the same ingredients necessary for a successful home. Meanwhile, the same fruit of the flesh, adultery, fornication etc are the same things that hurt marriages. So, you must start walking in the spirit from now. You must walk in love and submission towards others now that you’re single.
Also, sex is something reserved for marriage. No one who hasn’t exchanged marriage vows with you has the right to demand sex. That’s one way that marriage is really different.